{"id":1487,"date":"2024-04-01T12:41:02","date_gmt":"2024-04-01T11:41:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/365daysofmessages.com\/?p=1487"},"modified":"2024-04-01T12:52:27","modified_gmt":"2024-04-01T11:52:27","slug":"its-a-dastardly-deed","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/365daysofmessages.com\/its-a-dastardly-deed\/","title":{"rendered":"It’s a Dastardly Deed"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
It’s a dastardly deed. Telling your children about a cancer diagnosis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is simply no easy way to do it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I chose to hold on to my diagnosis until I knew where I was heading. That way I could give them a truthful conversation – as far as I knew, to that point. The biggest drawback about that is, you have had time to acclimatise to this earth-shattering news and so you must strip back a few layers of your feelings to be in a space for theirs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The all-consuming panic in the early days and weeks wasn’t something I wanted to pass on to them. Let me state at this point, that I am supremely grateful I indeed did have that option to wait when others haven\u2019t had any time at all. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
It adds another layer of parenting for sure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Talking about it in posts like this and in the way that many charities do is the biggest help and comfort to people going through the same. It was highlighted in March by Catherine, Princess of Wales. Nobody envied them that task.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/p>\nthe way you tell them will impact how they cope<\/strong><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
I leaned into <\/a>Maggie’s Oxford several times during this time. If you haven\u2019t found your local Maggie\u2019s you can do so HERE<\/a> and whether you have children to speak to or not, I would advise you to visit them for your support and that of your friends and family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Let\u2019s front this out. No matter how level you are, your mind will sprint at top speed to the worst-case scenario. As a single mother of two amazing children, I didn\u2019t know what this would mean for them. From that place, you have to put your hand on your collar and haul yourself back from the darkest place to be able to deal with it and hold them in a space to be able to process their emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It keeps you awake at 4am…<\/h2>\n\n\n
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